day eight: five things that are most important to you in a future mate

i have a long list of things that are important to me in a future mate...and i'm horrible at prioritizing this list. *shrugs* but here are the first 5 that come to mind:

1. honesty/accountability - plain and simple, tell the truth. if you're going to let me in on anything, it needs to be the full truth or i'd rather not know. also, if you don't work and don't pay bills, i can't trust you. mainly because there's not one adult without a bill of some sort...so if you're not accountable for or to something, it makes me question your motives and intentions, generally. *side eye*
2. stability/independence - have your own, make your own. if you want to date and you don't work, your priorities aren't in order. i don't believe any adult should be concerned with being in a relationship if they have nothing to offer the other person. like, and i'm gonna be a little biased right now, but as a woman, i want to be with a man who provides consistently for himself, has provision (i.e. a savings account with money in it), and lives comfortably. when i say comfortably, i just mean you should be able to go out for drinks/out to dinner with friends if you feel like it, or take a couple days off work to go on an extended weekend vacation every so often. i'm not balling by any means, but if i want to pick up and go somewhere, i can; if i feel like having a drink after work, i can do that too.
3. family-oriented - very important to me, as i do want children. and when you get married, you and your mate are a family. so basically, have an idea of how to operate in a household with other people, and care about others' feelings; want to spend time with people who are close to you.
4. well traveled/wants to travel more - there's a different presence about a man who has traveled. he's not regional, he's more open minded, and more adventurous. he's experienced, and typically knowledgeable about and aware of other cultures. all good things.
5. friendly/great sense of humor - is charismatic, can relate to different people, speaks well, can make people laugh...but is not overbearing or loud. good balance of humor.

i'm actually way better at forming a list of things i don't want, but this short list suffices.